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Author Topic: How do you know when you can trust someone?  (Read 1475 times)

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How do you know when you can trust someone?
« on: 29 April, 2009, 02:05:24 PM »
We've got a new neighbour, who is lovely and has offered to walk our six year old daughter the 500ish yards to school each day.  He's a stay-at-home step-dad.  I'd be quite happy to agree to this, but my wife is very nervous - rightly pointing out that we know nothing about him or the reasons why he (and his partner) moved in the first place.

Short of insisting that he has a CRB check (which would be a delightful way of building a relationship - not!), at what stage should we start to trust him?

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Re: How do you know when you can trust someone?
« Reply #1 on: 29 April, 2009, 02:34:14 PM »
At the risk of sounding trite, you'll trust him when you trust him - there's no time limit and it's something that might never materialise or could leap out at you within a few days.
Judgement of character's a tricky thing and few of us are right 100% of the time...listen to your collective gut and if something seems out of place after a while then trust it.

BTW I'm not saying you have a collective gut, I meant the collective Duff-gut of you and Mrs Duff.

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Re: How do you know when you can trust someone?
« Reply #2 on: 01 May, 2009, 06:42:45 PM »
 8) it is very difficult to identify the parameters based on which one may or may nor trust a person. however our experience teaches to look for signs which enforces our belief or disbelief in human being we meet. hence depending on gut feeling and secondly taking a few opinions from other people can make our decision making that much qualitatively better , and reduce the margin of error.
otherwise there is no foolproof method. just trust in the innate goodness of humans.