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Author Topic: Facebook has a lot to answer for  (Read 2669 times)

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Facebook has a lot to answer for
« on: 29 March, 2009, 12:48:26 PM »
OK so yesterday I got talking to a friend on facebook; we were catching up on life and I mentioned that I'd been having a rotten time recently due to moving into a house where 'one housemate was in love with me and another couldn't stand the sight of me' and I 'hope they treat in a methaphorical turd someday soon' - bearing in mind this is on my friend's profile, not mine; my now ex-housemate (the one who cannot stand me) has seen this and reacted with a nasty, but vague status. All very childish.

I'm quite fond of facebook because I have people on there whom I actually like and want to keep in contact with. Would it be the best thing to send my ex-housemate a message and say I think it would be for the best to delete one another - rather than simply doing this because it would cause a riot.

I've actually moved out of the house and don't see them much anymore, but I'd like to keep the minimal contact that we do have as polite as possible. It's currently exam time and I'm afraid they will act up and put me off my studies.


Is there any way to deal with such childish behaviour??

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Re: Facebook has a lot to answer for
« Reply #1 on: 29 March, 2009, 12:51:49 PM »
That sounds like a very good plan.

If you've a problem with someone it's best to meet it head on, getting drawn in to snide comments get no-one anywhere and even offering to 'cut the cord' - in other words agreeing to disagree - is facing up to it and sorting it. No point in anything festering.

I hope you get met half way with the same mature attitude.

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Re: Facebook has a lot to answer for
« Reply #2 on: 29 March, 2009, 01:11:29 PM »
In a perfect world they would agree to disagree, but it's two against one and I've come out the worse against them before.
It's so stupid it annoys me; I worry that they'll shout abuse at my house when they've been out and had a drink; it's ridiculous! I have so much riding on these next couple of weeks that I can't afford to be dragged into petty games.

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Re: Facebook has a lot to answer for
« Reply #3 on: 29 March, 2009, 01:39:55 PM »
Ah I see, so one of them drags the other one in.
Is there any way of getting through to the one who likes you's better nature?
Are they in the same position as you of taking exams currently?

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Re: Facebook has a lot to answer for
« Reply #4 on: 29 March, 2009, 02:08:46 PM »
Yes exactly, they're very into comforting each other to justify their actions.

I've taken the one who tolerates me the most to lunch and it seemed as though nothing got through, I don't know what more I can do from my part.

The funny thing is, they do the same course as me so have exactly the same work load on. They're jealous because I need a certain grade to go onto a Masters course while they're stuck doing nothing after exams so they will think nothing of causing a big distraction because it doesn't matter to them if they don't do well!

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Re: Facebook has a lot to answer for
« Reply #5 on: 29 March, 2009, 06:01:36 PM »
I think maybe you've done what you can externally, and now all you can do is control the effect they have on you.
They obviously want the, as you said, comfort of trying to make more people the same as them - but you've got more about you than they have and will, pretty obviously, go much further.
Leave them behind, stewing in their own juices, while you go on and flourish.

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Re: Facebook has a lot to answer for
« Reply #6 on: 29 March, 2009, 06:10:39 PM »
Stay clear of them while at Uni and buy a decent pair of headphones for while you're studying.

There really isn't anything else you can do that you haven't already tried.

Good luck with the exams ;D

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Re: Facebook has a lot to answer for
« Reply #7 on: 30 March, 2009, 08:24:25 AM »
If they want to start yelling insults outside your house, it is classed as harassment and is punishable by law, also your college would take a dim view of the matter.

facebook being open to all will unfortunately on occasion result in this situation, there are always those who have a chip on their shoulder looking for a target for their wrath.
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Re: Facebook has a lot to answer for
« Reply #8 on: 30 March, 2009, 10:52:19 AM »
well - you did learn a lesson. Posting wall-to-wall in FB is *not* private - it shows up on both yours and your mates (the one you were talking to) walls. Publicly bad-mouthing anyone is usually not a good idea

Doesn't particularly solve your problem though - probably the best you could do is to ignore anything they do. Going down the "criminal harassment" route will distract you just as much (possibly more so). If they do interfere with your studies, let your tutor know, by all means. Preferably have some evidence so you don't look like you're trying to get an easy ride in the exams :)

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Re: Facebook has a lot to answer for
« Reply #9 on: 30 March, 2009, 12:24:44 PM »
I would just delete them from my friends list, If you don't see them to much anyway then I wouldn't worry about it, Facebook can be so evil sometimes! Gossip and bitching is rife. Good job you can connect with people that you like to help outweigh the nastieness of it all.
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